This video blog post is the first of a series, titled What’s Holding You Back?, where I talk about some of the common things that hold us back from getting started with online videos. This first video is about rejection.
Rejection has got to be one of the biggest obstacles that we face that prevents us from creating online videos. We begin to imagine the worst case scenarios in our head of how others could reject us and our videos – that people will make fun of us, that nobody will want to watch our videos, etc.
As someone who has experience rejection plenty of times (as actor, I’ve had to deal with it all the time!), I’ve learned a few things along the way:
- It’s not personal. This was difficult to learn and accept, but I shifted my mindset about rejection. It now became about a matter of personal preference, whether I was the right fit for a certain film/tv project – the same goes for your videos. You need to accept the fact that not everyone will like what you post. People will gravitate towards who they feel compelled to gravitate to. Sometimes that may be you and others it may not be.
- Focus your time and energy towards your ideal clients. Instead of worrying about what other people think, channel your energy and efforts to those individuals who want to hear from you. They’re the ones who probably won’t be rejecting you, especially if they see you as the person who can help solve their problems and who also gives them value.
- Stop imagining the worst. In reality, those scenarios that play in your head of how people are rejecting you remain as “what if” scenarios. If we keep thinking about them, the more we fuel our fear to prevent us from ever making any progress.
Rejection may hurt, but it’s not as scary as we make it out to be.
Don’t let it stop you from sharing your story and spreading your message to the world because there are people out there who need you.
Your turn: Have you ever let your fear of rejection stop you from creating online videos? If you have gotten past it, how did you get yourself to push through that fear? Share your experiences, thoughts, tips and other comments below.
Til next time,